Psychology · Relationships

Do You Have Codependent Patterns?

A free test to help you understand how much your sense of self, your boundaries, and your worth are tied up in taking care of others.

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27 questions · 4 minutes · No email required

About the codependency test

Codependency describes a pattern of over-focusing on other people's needs, feelings, and problems, often at real cost to your own wellbeing, sense of self, and boundaries. It usually develops as a way of staying safe, needed, or in control in earlier relationships — with a parent, a partner, or within a family system — and can persist long after the original situation that shaped it has changed.

This test measures three dimensions of the pattern: how much you take on caretaking and over-responsibility for others, how much your self-worth depends on being needed or approved of, and how much difficulty you have with boundaries and control. Your results give you a full percentage breakdown across all three, plus a genuine, in-depth profile of your overall pattern — not just a label, but how it formed, how it shows up, and a real path toward healthier balance.

Three steps to your result

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Answer 27 questions

One question at a time, on a five-point scale from Strongly Disagree to Strongly Agree. There are no right or wrong answers — only honest ones.

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Get your codependency profile

Scored across three dimensions — Caretaking & Over-Responsibility, Low Self-Worth & Approval-Seeking, and Control & Boundary Issues — to place you on the overall spectrum.

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Explore what it means

A results page that goes beyond a score: how the pattern likely formed, how it shows up day to day, and a genuine path toward healthier boundaries and self-worth.

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27 questions · 4 minutes · No email required

Frequently Asked Questions

What is codependency?
Codependency is a pattern of excessive emotional or psychological reliance on relationships, usually involving over-focusing on others' needs and problems while neglecting your own. It often develops in response to growing up with an unpredictable, addicted, or emotionally unavailable caregiver, though it can develop in other contexts too.
Is codependency a mental health diagnosis?
No — it's not a formal clinical diagnosis in the DSM, but it's a widely recognized pattern used by therapists, support groups, and researchers to describe a real, common relational dynamic. This test is designed for self-reflection and insight, not as a diagnostic tool.
Does having codependent traits mean I'm not a good partner or friend?
No — codependent patterns very often come from genuine care, empathy, and a real desire to help. The issue isn't that you care about others, it's when that care comes at the near-total expense of your own needs, boundaries, and sense of self.
How long does the test take?
About 4 minutes — 27 questions, answered one at a time on a five-point scale.
Can codependent patterns change?
Yes. With awareness, boundary-setting practice, and often support from therapy or peer groups, codependent patterns tend to soften significantly over time. It's a learned pattern, which means it can also be unlearned.
Is codependency the same as being a highly giving or generous person?
Related, but not the same. Generosity that comes from genuine choice and doesn't compromise your own wellbeing is healthy. Codependency specifically involves compulsive caretaking often driven by anxiety, fear of conflict, or a sense that your worth depends on being needed.

Ready to understand your pattern?

27 questions. About 4 minutes. Completely private.

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